Jun 21 , 2021

Dealing with loss and grief could be hard. It makes us feel sad and depressed. Loss of something or someone close to us or something that we valued. Our instinct is that we deny. Denial is natural and buys us some time and prepares us to deal with the eventual reality of loss. Denial functions as a cushion to help us to take the blow of loss. However, denial for longer time becomes barrier to us from dealing with the loss and a range of emotions that accompanies it.

How to Deal with Loss and Grief?
Dealing with loss and grief can be made easy by taking some time for you. In this article, I am going to share some best tips, tricks and strategies which can make it easy for you to deal with the loss. Set specific time to mourn and grieve. "It's not the amount of time we grieve but the kind of grief we grieve that determines whether we are helped or hurt by it.” – Dale Carnegie It takes much longer to cope with grief and loss when we begin and forget to pay due attention and when we avoid dealing with it. We should make a deliberate effort to give ourselves time to grieve and mourn and then we can begin to better deal with loss and grief and in turn take care of ourselves.

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Loss of a Loved One
Loss of any loved one could make us question about our own values and values of society. Life is always about transition and dealing with loss makes us face and question what is important to us, how do we find meaning, how can we live with new life without those we loved. Some changes are permanent and cannot be reverted, while other changes can be slowed down or avoided. Grief is a common emotion that affects us for varied reasons. What matters most in grief is how you deal with it. We all share a certain way to deal with grief, that could be positive or negative. Depending on the situation that we are in, grieving could last from few weeks to years. Grieving a spouse, partner or a child is a very painful emotion.

Loss of Your Job

Job loss is the first thing that most people think about when it fails. Our jobs, family, money, and health come first. Our emotional wellbeing, too, is important to us. However, when it comes to loss of job and loss of a huge amount of money, it could be that everything comes first than us. Make a new arrangement and learn to adapt to new life style. The new arrangement could be as simple as a morning walk for some purpose, an evening walk with loved ones and an evening get together with close friends. Do not Accept Loss Accepting loss of the job, family and loved ones is one of the most difficult tasks for us. This is because we wish for the impossible. We keep thinking that there would be another way to make things work in our favor.

Loss of a Friendship

  1. First, try to accept the reality that there is a gap between you and the friend. Accept the grief. Accept the loss.
  2. Continue with your regular life. Reassure your friends that you are ok and remain as normal as possible.
  3. Your friend will try to be around you to be in touch if you are all right and have a break from the grief. For people with great capacity to love, their needs are usually met by your friends and they understand that their physical presence is your need. So, they try to be physically close to you. 
  4. Do what you like to do. See friends. Attend the exhibition or festival. Make music. 

For those who do not share the passion for music, consider visiting a museum or reading a book. Play a game with your friends or go to the gym.

Loss of a Possession

You bought an expensive digital camera last year; you had used it all the time and now it is lost. This makes you feel so upset. You did not use it for a week and when you tried to use it to take some photo’s you could not find the memory card. You went through your photos and you cannot find that good one, or even worse an especially important one. Then you feel the first wave of denial comes, and you tell yourself “No, it isn’t lost.” Then you continue with your denials and start thinking that it can be replaced. Eventually you eventually learn that it has gone for good and you feel the first real grief. Denial. It is a sneaky bad side effect of denial. Feelings of grief and mourning can be attributed to us not letting go of something we think is “lost.”

We do not need to hide and ignore grief or its consequences. There are many ways to cope with loss and grief. Our way of coping with grief depends on our personality, our level of coping skills, our previous experience of loss and so on. The use of many of these tips and tricks can help you overcome the problem.